Archive for the ‘Life’s troubles’ Category

Step out to look in   1 comment

I was in the shower today. And as you do when you are in the shower, you tend to philosophize and sing. Don’t pretend you don’t. Anyway, my shower philosophy of the day was stumbled upon as I thought about the future, which is something I’ve been doing a lot of recently. The thought that was this: are my ambitions guided by what I personally aspire to, or are they shaped more by the views that others hold of how ambitions should be shaped? Maybe it seems like a silly question. Until you think about it. Do I do what I do, to whatever level of consciousness, because I have this view of what is seen as ‘cool’ by others? And to be perfectly honest with myself I’d say yes; my decision making is, subconsciously or otherwise, shaped by others to a large degree! And this is not an issue of self esteem. It’s simply a condition of the society that we live in. A society that kicks the personality out of you and says “this is what people before you have done to fit in around here, and don’t think you’re any different.” Hey, to hell with that! We were meant to live for so much more than conforming to such shallow ideals. A question to end on: are you living to please the image that society has built or are you living to LIVE? Think about it.


Posted October 18, 2010 by titirangilifechurch/blog in Life's troubles

An observation   Leave a comment

I must offer a disclaimer before all that is said here is read. What I offer here, like all my other postings, is opinion. Based on fact occasionally, but an opinion nonetheless. Please do not get offended. Recently, I’ve been thinking about the role of money in society. It is quite central to all that we do and quite a necessary evil in a sense. We couldn’t survive without it; we have a need for this common currency to purchase staple items to fuel our existence. I recognise this. I also cannot begin to imagine the stress that finances can put upon a father trying to provide for his family, a mother for her children, and how that little bit of extra comfort can help so much. However, the pursuit of material wealth above and beyond what is necessary has got me worried. I’ve decided that the pursuit of riches is not just a trivial factor among a number of others in our day to day lives, but has become the main driving factor. The central force that drives all that we do. And though this may be a sad realisation and one that I am not happy to admit, it is a very true and sobering thought. Think about the measure of a country’s success, it’s Gross Domestic Product (GDP). The GDP measures the balance of accounts based on the influx and outflow of capital, exports, imports, and so on. This index measures a country’s success in purely economic measures yet is still used as a measurement of ranking standard of living. Why must our standard of living be based on an economic measurement? I much prefer the Gross National Happiness (GNH) index which measures a country’s general wellbeing outside of economic terms. Thinking about my own life it seems I have been subconsciously conscripted to this “GDP” pattern of thought. My whole life it seems has been built around building a base of knowledge through various sources of education, through to a University degree, in order to increase my long term economic wealth. It seems that every action I take is in some way supposed to increase my commercial value and marketability to employers. My life is not a CV. Perhaps it has become so ingrained in our culture, chasing the “American dream” as such, that we hardly notice how commercialistic we really have become. Personally, I have no desire whatsoever to reach that pinnacle of wealth and status that we all have been conditioned to aspire to. And I think this has something to do with the fact that I have found a purpose above what is seen on this earth, that I know what is beyond all the worldly dreams that we so pointlessly chase. I have a purpose in God. In this light, I can see why people chase material wealth! It’s just a way of trying to find themselves, trying to find a purpose, to fill that hole which they feel deep within. When my time on this world is said and done, I don’t want others to remember me as the Managing Director of this company or the Executive of that corporation. What meaning does this really have at the end of the day? If I can make a positive change for others every day, then my purpose is complete. “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth…but store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal” Matthew 6:19-20

Posted September 13, 2010 by titirangilifechurch/blog in Life's troubles

A point of difference   1 comment

These are not my own thoughts as such, but something I heard and have expanded upon that I thought is applicable in my life and yours I’m sure also. Conflict situations are nasty; nobody really desires to be in a position where a level of tension exists between themselves and associates. Sometimes when we get into these positions and we feel that the other person has wronged us, there is a certain sentiment that it should not be our own duty or responsibility to try and repair what has happened since we have deemed it a fault not of our own that the conflict came about in the first instance. It’s almost that we feel that justice must be served and that the other person should feel shamed by what they have done, and so by facilitating that peace would be to remove the justice that we feel should be served. It takes a great degree of humility and grace to be able to proactively seek to accept the shortcomings of both of you, but in a way that puts you below the other person. Although we shouldn’t be stood on and allow ourselves to be messed around, we should quell our pride and think always first to seek peace rather than slow the healing process of conflict situations. When you next find yourself in a place of conflict, breathe slowly, open your mind and look to peace rather than exacerbating the tension.

Posted September 3, 2010 by titirangilifechurch/blog in Life's troubles

Reveal YOU   1 comment

Never be ashamed of who you are or what you believe. I see it all too often: people hiding their true colours because they are afraid that who they really are underneath all the masquerade is somebody that nobody will like. I’m sure I don’t speak for myself in saying that rawness is beauty. Your true character, your real personality, that’s who people really want to get to know. The real tragedy is that these fake masks we put up are so consuming that they can destroy a person’s true self. Reveal yourself, open up to people. It’s an amazing thing to find yourself, you won’t regret it.

It’s all about perspective   Leave a comment

Your friend is 20 minutes late for a dinner date and you begin to become rather agitated, sitting alone at a table reserved for two with what feels like a thousand pairs of eyes slicing their burning gaze in your direction. Upon his arrival you feel quite annoyed and outwardly show your frustration. However, he goes on to explain that there had been a car crash en route that had caused significant traffic delays. You immediately loosen up and become sympathetic and understanding. This is a pretty trivial example but it is indicative of a larger problem. We are often too quick to judge if somebody acts in a way that goes against personal expectations and norms. However, under a dissimilar culture and background, and given extenuating circumstances, these actions may be deemed entirely appropriate. One should try to understand somebody’s past to understand their present behaviour. On the surface lies only a shallow representation; look beyond this to truly comprehend someone.

Posted June 30, 2010 by titirangilifechurch/blog in Life's troubles

A change of direction   Leave a comment

With the sadness of letting go comes the anticipation of a new beginning. Who knows what may be around the corner in our great walk? Accept the passing of times and relieve residual sentiment by taking the step towards change, for this change is not only inevitable but necessary for self-fulfilment. Greet transition with an open heart in the knowledge that for progress to be sanctioned there must be a departure from a comfortable but static existence. With change comes new experiences; and with new experiences the development of character. While the progression of change is expected, it is your influence which will ultimately decide whether this change is to be negative or positive.

Exams ARGH!   1 comment

So, for all you Uni and School kids out there you’re probably right in the thick of the exam period. Having sat many myself over the years I know your pain and have experienced that peak of stress that might cause a man with thinner hair to become instantaneously bald. I’ll give you two tips that I’ve learnt over the years. Firstly, the exam is generally made so much easier by the hard work that is put in during classes/lectures and assignments leading up to the final exam. If you haven’t really done much work prior to the exam, I suggest you lead your eyes towards this second tip: do not cram for the exam! Start studying at least a week before the exam to allow ample time, variable on the level of difficulty and sheer coverage of the subject/paper at hand. You may think that cramming will allow you to remember more information as you are processing it closer to the exam, however this could not be further from the truth. APPLICATION is key to solidifying information in your brain, whether this be discussion in groups or going over past tests/exams; especially true if you are a kinesthetic learner such as myself. Anyway, remember that although the hard work may be a bit sucky in the short term, in the long term it is most definitely worth it! Oh, and Good Luck!

Posted June 10, 2010 by titirangilifechurch/blog in Life's troubles